Are you yourself? Test
Where are you in the acceptance, the affirmation of your personality? How do you know if you are yourself? And between renouncements, ambitions, how to find your way? This Christophe Andrè’s test invites you to discover it.
If you like to evaluate your test results on your own, count the symbols you have chosen the most and discover your profile in the following.
MAJORITY OF ■
“I don’t dare to be me “:
The repressed self
You have a little trouble being yourself. You would like to build and develop yourself without overshadowing others, without conflicts or tensions. You would like to assert yourself without taking any risks. But that’s hardly possible, so you often prefer to give up. Of course, it is not always a decision taken in full awareness but, by thinking about it, by taking stock, you realize one day that you have drawn a line on many of your needs, your aspirations, your dreams, your desires. All is not negative, however your attitude allowed you to develop good listening skills and empathy, a real respect for others, a sincere desire not to embarrass or hurt. It makes you a pleasant person to be around and who fits seamlessly into groups.
But it comes at the cost of a lot of giving up and a lot of regret and frustration. And maybe also at the cost of a slightly blurred image, some people may consider you as dull or bland because you do not assert yourself. And yourself, can feel a little worthless or depressed from time to time. Why do you not assert more? Sometimes it is necessary to allow yourself to toil, to disturb, to upset if that allows you to exist. Make others understand that you, too, have ideas of needed emotions. Temporary tension is sometimes the price to pay to be heard. And that you will be forgiven much faster than you think.
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“I Pretend to be me “:
The simulated me
You are not really yourself. Certainly, seen from outside, all is well, because you are good at making the change and pretending. It is not a deliberate effort to deceive others, but a simple reflex to correspond like the image that others have of you. During your periods of crisis or awareness, you realize that things are more complicated than those around you might think, that even in your fantasies or your excesses, you always more or less your image and your appearances.
This allows you to easily adapt to all environments, to be appreciated, integrated and efficient. You often manage to achieve your goals, and you readily recognize charm.
But after a while you might not know very well about who you really are and what you aspire to in reality. Prisoner of your image? Psychology speaks of “false-self”. There is also the risk of appearing as shallow and smooth, even elusive. And that of you often feel under pressure, even downright anxious.
Why not take the risk of displeasing, or not be compliant? Entering into the desire of others is sometimes rewarding, useful, but always alienating if one does not
not come out. Sort between your constructed character and your intimate person. You have the right to be bad-tempered, as long as you are not assaulting, the right not to smile or be fashionable, or the right to not always perform. In short, the right to sometimes disappoint others.
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“ I am me, and it is like that”:
The imposed me
You are a little too much yourself. You have a clear awareness of your interests and rights and do not hesitate to tell others. One only lives once, you think, and in order to thrive, you have to assert yourself. So, if someone is opposing your projects you won’t let that happen. What others think about you interests you, but doesn’t obsess over you and, in any case, you don’t build your life on it.
So you have a strong personality and are capable of true originality. You are endowed with leadership qualities and undoubtable creativity. People estimate you and often admire you. But sometimes people get annoyed by you. You do not seek to be pleasant and pure and it seems that you sometimes ignore your interlocutors worried that you are about research and defense of your own interests. You can be blamed for your egoism. The shrinks speak of a certain narcissism.
Why not add some extra quality to any you already own, like the ability to listen to the other?
No doubt that would lead even further on the way to your personal development. And then accepting frustrations (not having the last word to give up, to show someone who is wrong, to sacrifice a little of his time or pleasure for those of others) can also bring you new satisfactions like those of Altruism.
MAJORITY OF ❖
“ I try to me”:
The assumed me
You are doing your best to be yourself. There it seems possible- even desirable – to live in expressing your whole personality: you are not ashamed to assume your limits or talk about your flaws, no more than you are embarrassed to recognize your qualities or to celebrate your strengths. In your eyes there is no other possible attitude to feel good.
This makes you a safe and pleasant person: your behavior reassures those who doubt, and does not shade those looking for the leading roles. All is therefore for the best in the best of all possible worlds… Almost. Beware, for example, of discreet complacency, which could lead you to psychological standstill. Favourable to your emotional comfort, your mental attitude of self-tolerance may be less to your personal development: discomfort and frustration – if they are occasional – can be powerful levers of change, sometimes necessary. Taking responsibility is one thing, freezing is another. Just make sure there is a minimum of surprises, changes and discoveries in your existence: being yourself is also accepting to be jostled by the world around us…