I realized that if I don’t believe in myself, why would anyone else?
Throughout my life, I noticed an almost instinctive tendency to seek validation from external sources. I wanted others to appreciate me, to see my value, and to support me. I began life with the fragile belief that this confirmation must come from others. But at some point, I was faced with a question that changed my perception: “If I don’t believe in myself, why would anyone else?”
This question revealed a fundamental truth: people perceive and respond to how I present myself to the world. It’s not about arrogance or superficiality but about the authentic energy I exude when I know my worth. However, before this revelation, I had to confront my own insecurities.
My journey of building self-confidence
The foundation of my self-confidence lies in continuous inner work. It didn’t happen overnight, nor is it a final destination. It started with small changes, like recognizing the things I do well, no matter how insignificant they may seem. I began keeping a daily list of achievements, however small: “Today, I had the courage to express an idea in a meeting” or “I completed that challenging task ahead of schedule.”
Another step was learning to accept failure as part of the process. For years, I was afraid of making mistakes, believing they would make me seem incompetent. But gradually, I discovered that failure is not only inevitable but also the best teacher. When I view mistakes as learning opportunities, I start to face them with less fear.
The impact on my relationships
One thing I quickly observed is that self-confidence is contagious. When I embrace who I am, others feel it and start believing in me, too. For instance, during an important project at work, I had to present a controversial idea. Despite feeling nervous, I chose to stand firm in my perspective. The reaction from my colleagues was surprising: not only were they receptive, but many also told me that my determination inspired them to get more involved.
Why self-confidence is important to me
Believing in my own abilities isn’t just about success or achievements. It’s about how I relate to myself and the world. When I believe in myself, I recover faster from setbacks, see opportunities more clearly, and enjoy the journey more.
How I cultivate self-confidence
- I set realistic goals: I start small. Each accomplished goal strengthens my confidence.
- I’m kind to myself: I let go of excessive self-criticism and treat myself with the same compassion I would offer a dear friend.
- I challenge my beliefs: I identify the negative thoughts that sabotage me and question their truth.
- I invest in my growth: I read, take courses, and develop my skills. The more I learn, the more I feel I have to offer.
Conclusion
If I don’t value myself, why should I expect others to? I start by giving myself the chance to see my worth and by supporting myself wholeheartedly. With each step, with every victory, my self-confidence grows stronger. And, over time, I realize that I am my greatest supporter. The rest of the world will simply follow my lead.